There are people who spend their whole lives conforming to the ideals of other people, while there are some people who want to develop their own style. If you are the latter type, then it does not mean that you have a large ego or that you are vain about yourself. If you have decided to develop your own style, then it is a sign of a confident personality. You are trying to be unique; there is no harm in that.
How to develop your own style
The first thing you have to do when you aspire to develop your own style is to have a full realization of your limitations and capabilities. You cannot be unique unless and until you know what you can and cannot do. Think about the things you are good at, and think about the things you are bad at.
Always try to work to your strengths. If there is something you can do well, try and see how you can improve at it. This is what will characterize your personality. People will remember you for your talent. Aren’t all famous personalities of the world remarkable because of just one talent? Try to find out where your special forte is, and work on it.
That does not mean you should ignore your weaknesses completely. You should try to improve on that too. A person with an impressive personality is one who can manage various tasks but excels at one.
It is also important that you listen to your ‘inner voice’. When you are planning on something, ask yourself—What does my inner voice say? And act accordingly. If you have a firm conviction in a particular thing, you should probably do just that. There will be several detractors on the way, but you should only heed the advice of people who have noble intentions for you. Don’t be obstinate, but know what’s good for you and act accordingly. Be confident about yourself.
Don’t blindly copy others. Don’t try to do something just because someone else is doing it. Do what you believe in, even though other people don’t recommend it. If you are firmly convinced that it is good for you, then it probably is. Weigh the pros and cons of anything that you take up, and when you make something up, commit yourself to it.
Developing your own style isn’t something that you can do overnight. Your whole life is a process of developing a personality or a style. Everything that you do will affect it. So, you need to be careful about everything that you do and, above all, have faith in yourself and the people who mean well to you.