You are almost sure you have found the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. And this person has a special place in your heart. You want to give them everything you can, but apprehensions are looming. The feeling of nervousness and having no clue whether this commitment lasts for a long time leads you to an unknown destination.
When such aspersions are raised within your mind, you lose the joy in your relationships. You become worked up and start worrying about things. This should never happen because relationships are meant to give us joy, not sorrow.
Before committing to any relationship, you make sure that you want to stay with that person for a long period of time. You think well because commitment is a long ride. You only commit if you know that you want to spend the rest of your life with. Your commitment should be meaningful and should not have any ulterior motive. When you say that you will stick with someone for life, then you should abide by that. And you should do that without expectation.
This might seem like a tall order, but if you do so, you are aiming for the biggest prize—claiming more joy in your relationship. When you are devoting yourself wholeheartedly and sans expectation, you are making your life more contented and peaceful. Remember that a person who does not expect things to happen is the one who does not get hurt much.
Do not be overly possessive. If your partner says that they do not want to come out with you for dinner, it does not mean that they lost their love for you. Think about all the times you have spent happily together so far. Give people a break sometimes. It is all right if they speak with someone of the opposite gender apart from you. That does not mean a clandestine affair is looming. You speak to people of the opposite gender too. Think about that. Do you always have an affair in mind when you do so?
Do not expect your partner to change. All right, you like mussels, your partner does not. There is no big deal in that. Never expect your partner to like everything you do and behave exactly in the way you do. Even in the very remote possibility that they do that, you will not like it. They will become duplicates of you and you surely do not want a clone of yours to be walking around with you. You loved them for what they are, so why try and change them now? It is highly likely that when they change, you will find them too different and lose your attraction for them.
Keep these few points in mind. When you are looking at finding joy in your relationships, these are the things that go a long way. Work at them to make your relationship a success!