Do you sometimes feel that your life is going in the wrong direction and it is out of control? You know that challenges are happening you have no control over. When we face these types of situations, we have two choices. We can either accept that there are things in our life we cannot change, or there are things in life we can.
When there are things in our life we can change, then we must not wait for things to change, but we must work at changing them. Many people know what needs to be done to change a situation but for reasons known only to them they procrastinate doing the things that can change their situation and improve it.
Challenges we cannot change
Other things in our life we cannot change and these are the things that often cause us pain and distress. They often create a feeling of hopelessness and if we let them, they can control our life. Francis of Assisi once asked for the “courage to change the things that can be changed and to accept the things that can’t be changed and the ability to tell the difference.”
Sometimes when things are happening in our life we can’t change, we need to deal with them by accepting the challenges and learning to live with them with patience and not just surviving but thriving as we accept them.
The prayer of Francis asked for the ability to tell the difference between the two things. Thus things we can change and the things we can’t change. This for many people this is the first step towards finding the solution to a bad situation. We need to ask if the situation can change and if it can, what practical steps do we need to take to bring about the change.
Facing the challenges
Sometimes we can answer this question ourselves, sometimes we need the help of a professional counselor or advisor. Having determined the answer to the question. Next is the procedures to implement the change. The counselor may be able to help us give us advice in the best way to make the change.
If decided the change can’t be made, resolute the situation in the bigger picture not to focus on it. We need to accept the problem is here to stay. Now our goals must be on how to relegate the problem to the background. Also value the life we have apart from the problem.